Self-Care for Parents During Back-to-School Season

As a therapist who takes a holistic approach to family wellbeing, I know that parents often put their own needs last during the back-to-school transition. Yet parent self-care isn't selfish, it's essential! When you prioritize your own well-being, you're better equipped to support your children through this adjustment period.

Example 1: The Oxygen Mask Principle

Remember the airline safety demonstration? "Put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others." This applies perfectly to parenting during school transitions! Taking care of yourself first isn't selfish; it's necessary for supporting your children effectively. Watch for signs of parent burnout like poor sleep, irritability, or brain fog. Small acts of self-care, whether it's a morning walk, meeting a friend for coffee, or simply taking five minutes of quiet, can make a tremendous difference in your capacity to navigate the emotional rollercoaster of back-to-school season.

What's one small thing you can do for yourself this week?

Example 2: The Emotion Mirror

Children are emotional detectives, instantly picking up on our stress levels! They mirror what we model, so when we're frazzled about school transitions, they absorb that energy. Before morning drop-offs, try taking three deep breaths in the car. Notice your tipping points, those moments when your stress becomes visible to your child, and develop simple grounding techniques like focusing on your breath or naming five things you can see. Your calm presence creates emotional safety for your child, even when they're feeling anxious.

Example 3: The Support Network

No parent should navigate back-to-school transitions alone! Connecting with other parents going through the same experience provides both practical support and emotional validation. Whether it's joining the PTA, creating a carpool system, or simply texting another parent who "gets it," building your village reduces isolation. Remember: asking for help isn't a weakness, it's modeling healthy relationships for your children.

What small step could you take today to strengthen your support network?

With care,

Natasa Lazarevic

Licensed Clinical Social Worker