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As Valentine’s Day gets closer, something interesting happens in therapy rooms. No one walks in holding roses, but many walk in holding quiet pressure. Pressure to be in a relationship. Pressure to feel a certain way. Pressure to prove, explain, or justify where they are in life. And often, this pressure shows up weeks before February 14th. If you’ve noticed yourself feeling more restless, self-critical, or emotionally tense as Valentine’s Day approaches, you’re not alone. This day has a way...

If I had a dollar for every time someone in my therapy room said, “But if I set boundaries, won’t that push my partner away?” … I’d probably be writing this from a beach somewhere. Here’s the truth I wish more couples heard early on: boundaries don’t ruin relationships. Avoiding them does. Most people don’t come to therapy saying, “We don’t love each other anymore.” They come saying things like, “I feel drained,” “I don’t feel heard,” or “I don’t even know what I need anymore.” And almost...

Setting limits during the holiday season can evoke significant guilt, especially among those socialized to prioritize others’ needs or maintain familial harmony. This guilt can undermine effective boundary-setting and contribute to burnout. Key considerations include: • Recognize guilt as an emotional response, not an indicator of wrongdoing.
Guilt often arises when engaging in self-protective behaviors that deviate from familiar patterns. • Define realistic personal limits in...